I want to be a boss.. but if I make ๐๐ผ๐ผ ๐บ๐๐ฐ๐ต money it will create issues in my relationship bc studies show that relationships are more successful when we fall into our feminine & masculine roles ๐
Culturally, we have described making money as โbringing home the baconโ, โbeing the breadwinnerโ, โwearing the pantsโ... etc. Being seen as the provider has a masculine connotation.
So when a woman makes ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ money, it can be seen as masculine even come off as challenging their partnerโs masculinity. It starts to break the cultural norm and could cause rifts in the relationship.
That could sound like โsince you make more money you decideโ, โyou know I donโt make as much as you so I canโt do thatโ, or โyou should manage the money since you make most of itโ etc.
Itโs common that the more money women make, the more ๐ด๐๐ถ๐น๐๐ we feel and we find ourselves doing more housework to make up for how much more money we make which can be exhausting.
Or... we find ourselves ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ณ๐๐น bc we expect our partners to fulfill societyโs norms for being the provider and coming up short. โMy mom told me to marry a rich man.โ
๐๐ปโโ๏ธ๐๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ถ๐?
But...Itโs not who has more power based on how much money you make, who does more housework or even takes on more parenting duties. ๐๐โ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฒ๐พ๐๐ฎ๐น ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฑ๐๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐๐ป๐ฒ๐ฟ๐.
๐ธopen conversations about being a team
๐ธshared vision on making each other happy and reaching life/financial goals
๐ธ shared responsibility managing money
๐ธshared responsibility with housework/ meal planning
๐ธshared responsibility with parenting duties
This is my vision for the modern woman and power couple goals.
๐๐โ๐ ๐ ๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ง๐๐๐ก ๐ผ๐ธ๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐๐๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐บ๐ผ๐บ ๐ฎ๐น๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฟ๐. Normalizing making money as equally feminine ๐ค